What I look for in a girl

I was posed this question tonight. And the answer I came to was her heart. I don't think I did a good job in explaining it earlier, but I think I have a good way right now. Earlier, I started talking about beliefs about who God is and theology, but I think that doesn't fully capture the idea of what makes up someone's heart. This one question however, I think does the job pretty well.

What makes you cry?

Inextricably linked to this question is why do you cry? It's a simple question yet the answer tells us so much about a person. The last time I cried was at a Chicago Tabernacle Prayer meeting. The pastor had just read Exodus 40 about how God's glory comes down and fills the temple and the last coherent thought I had was "where is God's glory today?" and then I started to cry. What makes you weep? Does the thought of people going to hell bring you to tears? Does the idea of God's glory coming down move you? Do you weep over the fallen state of the church? Are you grieved by the ruin of Joseph?

Cryings is so interesting. You see, we cry when we're happy, when we're frustrated, when we're sad, when we laugh to much, when we're angry, it's like an overflow of any kind of emotion brings us to tears. I think these things show us what we have in our hearts. Jesus says that the overflow of our hearts manifests itself in our actions and if our action is weeping, then what is in our hearts determines why. Do you weep over the same things that Jesus wept over? And if you don't, can you really say that you know His heart?

To me, that's the most important thing. Maybe I'll have the most inspiring conversations, or have the most fun, or even share the same passions, but if the heart isn't there, then I can't see something working out. I mean obviously if God has taken care of providing someone, I'm not going to argue because He can change someone's heart. To really walk the same path means sharing in a lot of things. It's easy to share joy, harder perhaps to share in someone's anger or hurt, but I believe someone I can share my grief with is amazing and rare. I think that goes for our relationship with God too. Has God shown you His grief? Again, it's easy to be happy when others are happy, and perhaps the things that hurt our friends hurt us, but when someone cries over the same things you cry about, whatever the emotion may be, I think that shows a connection of heart.

You would have thought I would mention love somewhere in here. It fits somewhere in here, but I'm not sure where haha. To love someone, perhaps that in itself assumes something of a sharing of heart, but perhaps not in the same way that I'm talking about. Yeah, definitely not in the same way I'm talking about. As usual, this pondering is nothing more than that, thoughts and musings. I still believe I'm not ready for a relationship and it's not God's will right now however much I may want one.